Big life questions

Reality Check: Who Are You & What Are You Doing?

Who has time to think about the “big questions” in life? Most people I know are too busy and overwhelmed these days with the...
Are you good company?

Are You Good Company?

There are some people we naturally love to be around. They are like sunspots, giving off warmth and radiating good energy. There are others...
What a Bucket of PopCorn Says About You

What a Bucket of Popcorn Says About You

In the un-put-downable book Switch: How to Change Things When Change is Hard, the authors describe a famous popcorn study. Moviegoers were given a...
Emily Esfahani Smith

Emily Esfahani Smith

Writer, Wife, Author of The Power of Meaning: Crafting a Life That Matters
Mental Rehearsal

Dress Rehearsal of the Mind: How to Overcome Anxiety & Build Confidence

I have always been a little skeptical of visualization techniques. The idea of telling someone to visualize winning the lottery, marrying George Clooney or...
#RandomActsOfKindnessDay

25 Ways to Celebrate Kindness

According to Nobel Prize-winning scientist Daniel Kahneman, we experience approximately 20,000 moments each day. In honor of #RandomActsOfKindnessDay choose to make the most of...
YOLO, decision making, impulse, future, self

What Would Future You Think?

“What do you want to be when you grow up?” is a question we ask children all the time. It asks them to think...

How to Fall Back in Love

Remember the good old days when you and your partner were madly in love? If those days are a distant memory and you feel...
Chilla Kiana

Chilla Kiana

Musician, Aspiring Businesswoman, Over-Thinker
buddies, friends, relationships, longevity, reduce risk of death

Bosom Buddies

You need friends. Certainly, eating well, exercising and a healthy lifestyle are known to increase longevity and reduce the risk of death, but research reveals...
Mending a Broken Heart

Mending a Broken Heart: A How-To

Remember that scene in Clueless, where Cher kind of makes fun of Tai for wanting to burn the few things she associates with her...
Grammys

Grab that Grammy: Why We Still Lust After Rock Stars

In France, a guy stood on the street on three different occasions asking women for their phone numbers. One time, he held no bag;...
Christene Barberich

Christene Barberich

Driven Dreamer, Co-Founder and Global Editor-in-Chief of Refinery29

The Mental Math of Motivation

Question: If you were running a 26-mile marathon and you were running out of gas or starting to feel everything (not in a good...
efficiency

Don’t Depend Too Much on Efficiency

We live in a world that celebrates productivity. Getting more done in less time is the battle cry of ambitious people. “Time wasting” activities,...
UnStyled by Refinery29

A Psychiatrist Weighs In: Can A Good Outfit Affect Your Mental Health?

For many women, the pursuit of looking good feels like an indulgence — and most of the time, in the bad kind of way....
when chaos cultivates creativity

When Chaos Cultivates Creativity

We tend to divide the world into two types of people—neat freaks or slobs.  We assume neat freaks are organized, goal oriented winners who...
Julie Wald Namaste New York

Julie Wald

Mother, Nurturer, Intuitive & Founder of Namaste New York
superbowl food

A Double Loss: The Link Between Football & Junk Food Cravings

High-fat foods and watching football go hand in hand. Chicken wings, nachos, hotdogs followed by TUMS are all part of the experience. The influence...
Venus vs. Serena Williams

8 Ways to Think Like a Williams

By definition, all professional athletes have extraordinary athletic ability combined with mastery of a physical talent and skill. But what does it take to win? Research...
positivity and productivity

Think Positive = Be Productive

A group of four years olds was asked to do simple learning tasks involving building blocks and putting shapes or colors together. The children...
Why We Love Talking About Ourselves

Why We Love Talking About Ourselves

People just love to talk. We communicate with each other all day long through text messages, emails, phone calls and face-to-face interactions. Language is...
Alexandra Wolfe

Alexandra Wolfe

Author, Journalist, New Yorker

Potential vs Achievement: How to Stand Out

One of my favorite quotes was sung by Ella Fitzgerald: It isn’t where you came from; it’s where you’re going that counts. If Ella says it,...
how to be skinny

Get Up, Stand Up

Invasion of the killer chairs! When sofas attack! No, these aren’t titles of bad horror movies or the latest video games. It’s a reflection...

The Side Effects of Enforcing Wellness

In wellness, there’s no one-size-fits-all regimen. In fact, the first step on the path to a better, healthier, happier life, is choice. In a classic...

Aerin Lauder

Mother, Creative & Passionate

Yes, You Can Cultivate Luck – Here’s How

Why do some people seem to have all the luck? Psychologist Richard Wiseman has been researching this question for most of his career and...

Sleep Makes You Thinner (& 4 Other Reasons to Get Some Shut Eye)

At this point, I shouldn’t have to remind anyone about the benefits of sleep. Medicine and science has been lecturing us about why it’s...

Margo Chabot

It’s about your attention and where you put it!

Love Literally Hurts – So Does Being Left Out

Love hurts — the pain is emotional and physical. In the 1970s, scientist Jaak Panseep discovered that puppies separated from their mothers were less likely to...

Paralyzing Choices

When it comes to choice, most people assume that more is more. Whether we are choosing a doctor, shoes, what to order for dinner...

Mindful Munching: 5 Ways to Eat Less, Better and With Intention

Early in 2014, researchers published a review in the professional journal Eating Behaviors of 14 studies that looked at mindful meditation as the main intervention for...

The Importance of Being Little: What Preschoolers Really Need from Grownups

Well researched with a personalized touch, this book brings to light the troubles early education is presenting to our youth, and how that will...

Queen of Fashion: What Marie Antoinette Wore to the Revolution

This elegant and quick read doesn’t claim to be a biography about Marie-Antoinette, but rather focuses brilliantly on the clothing choices she and her...

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

There is a good reason this book is a number one seller. This tidy manifesto has the power to change your life my encouraging...

Table Manners: How to Behave in the Modern World and Why Bother

For every young person, woman and man, world traveler or homebody, who needs brushing up on their manners, this is the perfect gift. This...
seasonal affective disorder

Rethinking The Winter Blues

In medical school I was taught to look out for Seasonal Affective Disorder, SAD, during the cold dark months. I expected my patients’ depression...
Derek Blasberg

Derek Blasberg

Vanity Fair writer and host of ‘CNN Style’

Why to Care About Sharing

Does chocolate taste better when shared? Absolutely, and research backs it up. Sharing an experience with another intensifies it. According to the study’s lead...

Avoid These Two Mistakes at Your New Year’s Eve Party

New Year’s Eve can be stressful. Why? For starters, whether you have a fear of missing out or a concern that you won’t have...

Love & Compassion: The Secrets to Self-Control

With all the focus on strategies to resist the proverbial marshmallow and boost self-control, we may be missing something right under our noses. David...

Turning Should into Will

I should have done that differently. I should do that tomorrow. Ever notice how much “shoulds” there are in your life? When talking about the...

Dan Buettner

National Geographic Explorer and professional truant.

Looking for Purpose? Ask Yourself These 5 Questions

Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote: The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate,...

Relationships — The Key to Life

“The only things that matter in life are your relations to other people.” Close relationships are the key to successful aging, it turns out. Not...
Resolutions

Realistic Resolutions – For Real!

Full disclosure: New Year's resolutions are the bane of my January-February existence. In theory, they are a wonderfully positive chance to turn over a...
fuflilling, happier, depression

Making a Full Day Fulfilling

When someone visits a psychiatrist for the first time, it’s usually at an inflection point. Something big has happened, is happening or is about...

The New Rx: Purpose

For the past 10 years, Experience Corps has trained thousands of people over the age of 55 to tutor children in public schools across...

Candice Miller

Mother, Wife, Co-Founder of Mama & Tata

Your Brain Is A Muscle You Can Strengthen: Here’s How

"I am who I am." I've heard this line from patients countless times. "You can't teach an old dog new tricks" is another version....

A Merry Manifesto: 9 Tips for a Happier Holidays

As strange as this sounds, when I was younger, I loved working during the holidays. There was something nice about making rounds in the...

Pet Therapy for Your Love Life

Pets are good for the body and the mind, and research backs it up. Pet owners are less likely to be obese, or to...

Dr. Sam’s Holiday Gift Guide

The Happy Cook: 125 Recipes for Eating Every Day Like It's the Weekend From bestselling author and Emmy Award-winning co-host of ABC’s The Chew,...

How to Make Small Talk at All Your Holiday Parties

Does the thought of small talk fill you with dread? If your answer is “yes,” I suspect this time of year is particularly challenging...

How to Survive Your Awkward Holiday Office Party

 ’Tis the season for holiday parties. But of all the varieties out there—the in-laws’ gathering, the fun friends’ bash—none evoke the particular type of...

Lisa Cypers Kamen

Mom, Felicitator, Lover of Life

Do You Struggle to Ask for Help in the Workplace?

When it comes to getting what you need to be truly successful in your work, do you struggle to ask for help?  Perhaps as...

Good Stuff

1. Make a friend: Just Like Falling in Love, We Can Form Friendships at First Sight by @cariromm

Present Tense: The Perfect Gift

The materialism associated with the holidays can leave us feeling empty and anything but full of good cheer. Conspicuous consumption leaves a mark on...

14 Ways to Avoid Holiday Weight Gain

The average American gains between 4 and 7 pounds in the four weeks between Thanksgiving and Christmas. You don’t have to be one of...

Mickey Boardman

Editor, Shopaholic, Vegetarian

Five Ways To Thrive During The Holidays

Yes it’s that time of year again, the season to be jolly.  So why might you be starting to feel a creeping sense of...

Feeling Down Post-Election? Tap into Your Resilience Reserves

Since Tuesday, I have heard from patients, friends and co-workers who are having a difficult time processing the outcome of the election. While I...

Good Stuff

1. Be Present: The Face Everything Technique and Why Avoiding Difficulties Doesn’t Work @lifehacker 2. Initiate: One Behavior Separates The Successful From The Average @BenjaminPHardy 3. Listen: Rita Wilson, The Christmas...

Wendi Murdoch

Relentlessly curious...

How Much Does Happiness Cost?

We know that money can’t buy you happiness. In an effort to understand the link between money and well-being, psychologists Elizabeth Dunn and Michael...

What Can You Control?

Let go of the things that are beyond your control and focus on these instead: 1. Your Attention Think of your attention as a flashlight....

Kelly Rutherford

A trailblazer of hope...

3 Ways To Improve Your Creativity At Work

Do you feel under pressure to be more creative at work? If you’re nodding your head, you’re in good company. Studies have recently found...

Why “Follow Your Passion” is Terrible Advice

Graduation speeches, self-help books and well-meaning therapists preach the gospel of “following your passion.” It is predicated on the belief that if you follow your...

Do Opposites Attract?

In subways and movie theaters, on the bus and in cafeterias, we gravitate towards people who look like us. Recent studies explore this tendency. In a pool...

Daphne Oz

Co-host of the Chew, best-selling author and overall domestic goddess. Her new cookbook, The Happy Cook, redefines Happy Meal!

Emotional Viagra

If you want to relight the fire in your relationship, start outside of the bedroom. At the beginning of a relationship, couples cannot keep their...

Out to Dinner: The Art of the Order

Ordering dinner at a restaurant seems like a relatively straightforward process. You look over the menu, listen to the waiter pitch specials and make...

William Norwich

Writer, Editor, Friend

Grin as You Gray

Few relish the thought of getting older. What is there to look forward to? Everything we hear about it is accompanied by the word...

Those Moments That Make You Want to Be A Better Person

Remember hearing about the New York City police officer who bought socks and shoes for a barefoot homeless man on a cold night? Unbeknownst...

Divorcing TV From Marriage

Since before Claire and Phil on Modern Family, the fictional romances of TV have influenced the very real relationships in our lives. As captivating as those small screen...

The Best Way to Get Through a Tough Day

Whenever I had a really demanding day at work, my instinct was always to power through it.  Other than a quick bite at my...

When Hanger Hurts Your Heart

Everyone knows that going to the grocery store on an empty stomach is a no-no — you’ll make rash, bad decisions. Research reveals another...

How Men Think About Their Own Bodies

Just as heart disease and alcoholism were once thought of primarily as men’s diseases, eating disorders such as anorexia and binge eating disorder, addictive...

Change is Possible: A Simple Strategy to Build Resilience

Conventional wisdom holds that people don’t really change.  We typecast others and ourselves.  “She is an anxious person.” “He is such a grouch.” “I...

Fidget Factor: The Benefits of Squirming

Your high-strung, fidgety behavior may sometimes annoy others but, for you, there may be a host of health benefits. Not only do fidgeters burn...

Dessert, Reimagined

“Would you like to see the dessert menu?” At once the most blissful and stressful words. For anyone trying to eat healthy, this seemingly innocent...

Choral Fixation: The Power of Group Singing

In the United States alone, more than 23 million adults sing in groups every week. Why? Because there’s a direct link between music and...

I Have a Confession to Make

Imagine sitting alone in a restaurant waiting for a friend. How do you pass the time? Do you look around? Do you savor the...

Tory Burch

Mother, Designer, CEO

The Art & Science of How to Get the Guy

We are ever striving after what is forbidden, and coveting what is denied us. ~Ovid Is it human nature to want what you cannot have? This...

Conscious Complaining: 5 Ways to Transform Complaints Into Action

Venting may feel good in the moment but studies show it often does more harm than good. As a patient bluntly explained to me...

Positive Thinking? Overrated

As much as it goes against everything you’ve ever heard about the power of positive thinking, it’s not all good. Just because I study...

3 Sexist Myths About the Brain, Debunked

Women are now occupying or vying for some of the most important positions across the world – President of the US, South Korea and...

Tamara Mellon

Mother, Designer

Kathryn Calley Galitz

Art historian, Optimist, Friend

Walk Yourself to the Top

When characters go for walks in literature, it often signals a period of character development. Walks often function as metaphors for epiphanies and revelations....

Dr. Elisa Port

Mother, Wife, Surgeon

The Miracle Cure

An old joke captures the value of exercise perfectly: We have found the miracle cure for depression, anxiety, obesity, high blood pressure, ADHD, and more....

Angela Duckworth

Psychologist, Mom, Catalyst

What Is The Ultimate Luxury?

The best things in life aren’t things. -Art Buchwald While nice things may be nice, the relentless pursuit of material goods leaves people feeling empty. More...

Backfire: Is the Pursuit of Happiness Making You Unhappy?

Are you happy? The moment someone asks you this question, you start analyzing how happy you are.  “Am I happy? Am I really happy?” you...

Stop Telling People What to Do: Try This Game-Changing Strategy Instead

Stop telling me what to do! How many arguments grow out of this rebellious sentiment? Nobody likes to be bossed around. Most of us want...

How Pressing Pause Improves Performance

What is the best strategy to increase productivity? It is a question on everyone’s minds these days. Most people assume that we improve performance...

Isabella Huffington

Artist, Introvert, Romantic

The Self-Control Secret No One is Talking About

With all the focus on strategies to resist the proverbial marshmallow and boost self-control, we may be missing something right under our noses. David...

If They Only Knew: 6 Ways to Overcome Impostor Syndrome

I am a total fraud and everyone is about to find out. If you’ve ever felt this way, you are familiar with imposter syndrome. Imposter...

The Fringe Benefits of Failure and the Importance of Imagination

Harry Potter is often described as a philosophical treatise disguised as a children’s book. I couldn't agree more. The author, J.K Rowling, gave this...

Read My Mind: Do You Ever Really Know What Someone Else is Thinking?

I love this speech and cannot resist sharing it with you. It is the remarks that Joe Biden gave to the graduating class at Yale in...

Do you have NDD?

According to a recent survey seventy five percent of children spend less time outside than the average prison inmate. Yes, that means Bernie Madoff gets more...

The Bright Side of Your Bad Mood

In addition to being annoying, being told to be happy all the time actually backfires. As a society, we have become increasingly intolerant of...

Unlock Your Resilience

If the subway is pulling away just as you reach the platform do you take it personally? Will it affect the rest of your...

The Power of Inspiration

Can a role model really make a difference? Absolutely. Having someone to look up to who models positive behavior builds resilience. Studies show that adolescents with...

Two Words of Advice We Rarely Hear

Go and make yourself useful. My mother used to say this all the time when I was a child. She would whip it out whenever...

Defang Your Dread of Mondays

Pretty much everyone hates Mondays but there is an excellent reason to feel a little less hostile towards the first day of the week....

How to Push Past Fear

“Getting in a cold pool first thing in the morning.” According to most swimming super stars, this is the single hardest thing about training....

“Sorry Syndrome”: Do You Apologize for the Rain?

When someone steps on my foot, I am the first to say, “I’m sorry.” I apologize for the weather, for terrible traffic, the long...

How to Achieve That Inner Glow

Our mothers may have told us not to judge a book by its cover, but research shows we cannot help it. In fact, according...

Does Going on Vacation Stress You Out?

Does going on vacation stress you out? You are not alone. I have a number of patients who have difficulty winding down. As one...

The Real Housewives Made Me Do It: How TV Influences Behavior

Television has a terrible reputation. I vividly remember my mother telling me my eyes would become square if I watched too much of it....

Too Cute to Resist: How Design Influences Behavior

Do cute products sell better? To explore this question, researchers measured the effect of cute, playful and whimsical products on consumption and indulgence. Test participants...

Seeing Really is Believing

I have always been a little skeptical of visualization techniques. The idea of telling someone to visualize winning the lottery, marrying George Clooney or...

I Think I Can…

The three sentences: “I think I can. I think I can. I think I can,” from the beloved children’s book, The Little Engine That Could, capture...

Does Size Matter?

Forget apple pie. Ice cream is America’s national dessert. Thanks to Ronald Reagan, July is National Ice Cream Month and although ice cream has...

Do You Check Your Phone First Thing in the Morning?

If checking your phone is the first thing you do when you wake up, you may want to rethink your morning routine. Tristan Harris,...

The Problem With Free Food at the Office

The old saying tells us that the way to a person’s heart is through their stomach. Many companies are applying this theory to win...

Do You Really Know What Other People Think About You?

“My friends and employees know me to be a humble guy,” explained my patient “John.” He was astonished to later learn that a number...

Stay Cool: What NOT to do on a Hot Summer Day

“There is nothing better than a Coke with lemon and lots of ice on a hot day,” announced one of my closest friends. As...

7 Ways to Make Your Day a Little Bit Better

When someone visits a psychiatrist for the first time, it’s usually at an inflection point. Something big has happened, is happening or is about...

What Are The Building Blocks of a Good Life?

I spent years studying damage, deficit and dysfunction in the human mind. I don’t remember once in my training hearing the words “joy,” “awe”...

The Less You Sleep the More You Eat

“A fried egg and cheese with bacon please.” This was the breakfast I craved at 5:30 am when I was an intern after an...

8 Ways to Think Like an Olympian

By definition, all Olympic athletes have extraordinary athletic ability combined with mastery of a physical talent and skill. But what does it take to win? Research...

Is This How to Have the Time of Your Life?

According to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics American Time Use Survey, Americans spend more time working, watching television and movies, and using their computers...

9 Ways to Make Yourself Irresistible

Diana Vreeland famously said, You don’t have to be born beautiful to be wildly attractive. Her wise words are supported by science. All too often we...

50 Shades of Bad Mood

“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.” In Romeo and Juliet, Juliet contends...

The Upside of Failing

Sara Blakely is the queen of the undergarment industry. Without any experience in retail or business and very little cash, she founded Spanx when...

What is the World’s Most Wanted Painting?

Botticelli’s Birth of Venus? Monet’s Water Lilies?  Munch’s The Scream? Vermeer’s Girl with a Pearl Earring? It turns out none of the above.  Two digital...

The Things that Matter

The comedian George Carlin once said, A house is just a place to keep your stuff while you go out and get more stuff. Nate Berkus...

Learning Resilience from a Master

The last ten years of Henri Matisse’s were far from what most of us would think of as joyful. His marriage was over, he...

THE CANINE HEROES OF 9/11

100 search and rescue dogs were deployed to the World Trade Center and Pentagon in the aftermath of the 9/11 attacks. These heroic canines worked...

A Stylish Tribute to Dads

Tomboy Style: Beyond the Boundaries of Fashion, is a fabulous book from blogger, writer, friend and tomboy Lizzie Garrett Mettler. What better way to celebrate...

How to Be a Genius

Yitang Zhang is a math superhero. He recently solved a math problem that fellow mathematicians had been working on for more than one hundred...

12 REASONS TO GET SERIOUS ABOUT SLEEP (#6 WILL SURPRISE YOU)

1. Appearance Studies show well-rested people are judged to be younger, more attractive and more competent. 2. Brighter Mood People feel better and brighter when they get...

Are You Sleeping With the Enemy?

If you sleep less, you eat more. You remember less. You get sick more often. You look bad. And poor sleep also leads to...

Goodnight Moon: How Lunar Cycles Affect Sleep

Previous research has shown us that the lunar cycle does not contribute to erratic human behavior, including transforming people into wolves, or causing inexplicable chest...

Silence is Golden

It has become increasingly rare to find oneself in silence. Even when we are alone or in the country, phones beep, televisions blare, and...

Shocking Behavior

French philosopher Blaise Pascal said: All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit in a quiet room alone. How hard is it to sit...

What Tech Gurus Do Better

Why is it that so many of the people who have provided us with technology are also the ones wisest about limiting its use?...

When Was the Last Time Something Took Your Breath Away?

When was the last time something took your breath away? I polled a few friends to explore this question and got a range of...

The Texting Dead: The Dangers of Texting While Walking

In this age of technology we are more connected than ever before. With the touch of a smartphone we are whisked into a world...

Your Body Really Is a Temple (Not a Bodega)

Regular exercise may be far more important for our physical and mental health than we realize. It’s not just about looking good. Regular physical...

I’ll Have What She’s Having: Is Your Dinner Partner Making You Fat?

There is an old saying, “show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.” Research suggests we can adapt it to, “show me...

Skinnier & Smarter, Just Hold the Whipped Cream

When I am trying to be “good,” I eat berries for dessert. New research suggests that eating berries BEFORE a meal may be an...

Is Eating on the Go Making You Hungry?

Everyone is in a hurry these days but eating on the go is not the answer. Sorry Go-Gurt and pre-packaged cereal (Just add milk!)...

Music as a Performance Enhancing Drug

A large body of scientific research indicates that music positively influences sports and exercise. Dr. Costas Karageorghis, a leader in sports psychology, has conducted...

8 Strategies to Outsmart the Sunday Blues

If Sundays make you sad, you are not alone. According to a survey, seventy-six percent of Americans dread the end of the weekend. Sunday evenings...

Bright Spots: How to Fix Any Problem

When Save the Children was invited into Vietnam to fight malnutrition, they asked an employee, Jerry Sternin, to open the office. It was a serious challenge....

If You Want to Sound Smart, Dont Send an Email

It might seem old-fashioned, but if you want to get something done or make a good impression, pick up the phone. Better yet, say...

Instead of Asking “What do I want?” Ask This Instead

What do you want out of life? Every once in a while it is important to reflect upon what you are doing with your...

It is What It is? Or is It?

"It is what it is.” This hackneyed phrase is on repeat in your head and odds are, you don’t even know it. We rarely...

Mealtime & Metabolism: Does Timing Matter?

"What should I eat?” It’s a complicated question and we keep getting mixed messages. Fat is bad. Fat is good. Salt will kill you....

7 Ways to Deal with Disappointment

According to the old adage, “disappointment is expectation divided by reality.” If you adhere to this formula then the best way to reduce disappointment...

Romance 101: The Secret to Making It Work

Contrary to what many believe, spending all of your time with your partner is not the best idea. While it is important to share...

Become a Master: 5 Ways to Improve Your Love Life

A new poll shows that nearly half of Gen X and Gen Y men and women think we should get rid of the “until...

Let it Go: A 2-Step Strategy to Leave Work at Work

Why is it so hard to leave work at work? When you leave the office, thoughts of work often linger and take away from...

Why Talking to Yourself is a Really Good Idea

People who refer to themselves in the third person are often considered weirdos. If I were to say aloud, “Go Samantha. You can do...

When Willpower Isn’t Enough

How can you get yourself to do things you really don’t feel like doing but really should do? University of Pennsylvania professor Katherine Milkman...

The Hidden Force of Fragrance

Thanks to a growing body of research, scientists are gaining a better understanding of the link between smell, emotion and wellbeing. Faces appear more...

What Would Harry Potter Do?

Reading a great book is not just an indulgence. Increasing evidence highlights the mental benefits of getting lost in a book. Harry Potter deserves...

A Neuroscience-Backed Strategy for Success

Everyone knows the benefits of exercise so why is it that so few people bother? One study found that 75% of people barely exercise...

12 Proven Strategies for Outsmarting Stress

Doctors keep telling us to get rid of the stress in our lives but, for most of us, this is an unrealistic option. Unless...

How do We Inspire Others to Greatness?

Instead of focusing on oneself, oftentimes the best place to find inspiration is in the work of others. This is especially true during challenging...

Interview Like You Mean It: 9 Strategies to Help You Get Where You Want...

Being a good interviewee is both an art and a science. A recent study highlights the single reason why a good candidate sometimes doesn't...

Is Binge-Watching your Favorite TV Show Making You Depressed?

If getting into bed for a marathon session of House of Cards sounds like the perfect way to spend a Saturday, think again. It...

Can You Teach Yourself to Be More Optimistic?

The benefits of optimism cannot be ignored. Optimism is associated with vitality, positive moods, increased well-being, better mental and physical health and less anxiety...

Yes, Just 10 Minutes a Day Can Turn Your Life Around

Consider the following experiment: researchers asked employees of an outpatient family practice clinic – nurses, assistants, and receptionists – to complete an online “survey”...

Charm School: 3 Ways to Make Yourself Irresistible

Some people are like sunspots. Adam Gopnik’s description of Richard Avedon captures this incandescent quality perfectly: To know Dick Avedon was to know the sun....

Is it All in Your Head?

“Is it all my head?” Patients ask me this question all the time. Perception is powerful. What you focus on shapes what you experience. Here...

RoboDoc: Is it Time to Fire Your Therapist?

There are many things computers already do better than we do. In fact, a 2013 Oxford study forecast that machines might be able to...

Stuck in A Rut? 5 Ways to Dig Yourself Out

“Are you really a psychiatrist? Well then, can I ask you a question?” I often find myself in a situation like this in which...

This Post Can Save Your Life

If you are ever in need of emergency aid, you better hope that there are NOT a lot of people around. In fact, you...

What is the Path to Passion?

Everyone loves a shortcut. It’s in our DNA. Why expend precious energy, effort or time if you don’t have to? Get Rich in 10...

6 Strategies To Turn A Bad Day Around

It is so easy to start the day on the wrong foot. You spill coffee all over your white shirt, the dog decided to...

Are You Running on Empty? 4 Signs It’s Time to Recharge

Does panic set in when the battery on your cellphone is low? People go to extraordinary lengths to recharge their battery. Last summer, a...

A Creative Cure for Distractions

Do you turn to your cellphone whenever you have a moment to spare? You are not alone if waiting for a “Don't Walk” sign...

Stop the Negative Self-Comparison Spiral

President Franklin Roosevelt called comparison the “thief of joy” but research suggests that in some contexts, “benign envy,” as psychologists call it, can be...

(Don’t) Always Live in the Moment

Whether you are on a hot date or in the middle of a yoga session, by all means, do your best to stay in...

Gratitude is a Verb

I probably say “thank you” at least 50 times a day. It’s not because I have excessive amounts of gratitude; it’s an automatic response. As...

Take Time for Traditions

A toast before champagne; blowing out candles and making a wish before tucking into birthday cake; ceremoniously carving a turkey or saying grace before...

Good Stuff

1. Sleep: How Hitting the Snooze Button Messes With Your Mind @cariromm

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1. Watch: Transcending: Words on Women and Strength @corrigankelly

Good Stuff

1. Discuss: How do you define a “good person?” Steven Pinker and others discuss ethical behavior. Giving ‘good’ a rigorous inspection.

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1. Watch: Sky Ladder, a Netflix Original Documentary about explosive artist Cai Guo-Qiang

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1. What are you stuffing your brain with?

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1. It is nice to be reminded of what is beautiful about our country and what we can do to bring out its loveliness.

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1. Your happiness isn’t just about you

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Inspire Your Community to Take Action

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Positive Punctuality: How to Be On Time

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20 Secrets of Successful Students

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Is Relaxing Overrated?

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A Brazen Way to Get an ‘A’

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Can Music Make You a Better Person

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Why I’m Prescribing a Mediterranean Diet to My Patients

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Dress for Success: Is There a Link Between Red Sneakers and Performance?

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Ask ‘What’s Strong’ Not ‘What’s Wrong’

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For Anyone Who Has Every Loved a Dog

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The One Question Therapists Don’t Often Ask–but Should

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Is Sitting the New Smoking?

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Mind Over Matter: Can You Cut Calories With a Mindset?

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Are You a Windbag? 5 Ways to Avoid Being a Know-it-All

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At an Impasse: Who is the Best Person to Ask for Advice?

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Can Bad Manners Kill?

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Marry Someone Smarter Than You Are

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Sex Ed

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Walk This Way: The Psychology of Shoes

While scholars and orthopedic surgeons alike may roll their eyeballs at a pair of hair-covered Gucci slides or one of Fashion Week’s towering Ziggy...

Infidelity is In Season: How to Prevent It

A 20-year survey about health, relationships and sex, found that 21.5% of the survey’s participants admitted to cheating. Interestingly, gender, class, salary and education had no...

The Best Relationship Advice I Know

Learning to “fight better” is a common theme in couple’s therapy. Don't use the phrase “you always…” stick to the issue at hand, and...

Learn How To Fight Fair

Conventional wisdom tells us it is best to avoid conflict in a relationship. Arguments can bring out the worst in all of us. But...

8 (Simple) Ways to Reduce Your Daily Stress

I lose my phone at least once a day and end up finding it in a drawer or some stealth pocket of a handbag...

What Happened to All the Cool Kids?

The cool kids in school don’t necessarily turn out to be the winners in life. If you have ever attended a high school reunion...

Plants, Positivity & Performance

Luther Burbank (1849-1926), the famous botanist and creator of more than 800 new varieties of plants, once said: Flowers always make people better, happier, and...

Is Your Cellphone Ruining Your Relationship?

Your cell phone may put the world at your fingertips but it may also be making those closest to you feel like you are...

What do Women Really Want?

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Why “Calm Down” is Terrible Advice

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Why are Female Hurricanes so Lethal?

Hurricanes are named according to a strict procedure established by the World Meteorological Association.They start alphabetically and alternate between male and female names. The names are selected...

All or Nothing

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Is Your Tiny Screen Bad for Your Self-Esteem?

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If You Need to Remember Something, Do This

People always say that the best way to remember something is to write it down. In college I took this advice to heart. I...

The Science-Backed Power of Clothes

When I was a little girl, I loved playing dress up. It didn’t take much. A red napkin magically became a superhero’s cape, and...

Is it Better to be Kind than Nice?

John Templeton famously said: It’s be nice to be important but it’s more important to be nice. Science backs this up. Nice people live longer, they...

Are You F.A.T & Happy?

What would you think if a friend walked past you on the street and didn’t stop to say hello?  Would you be hurt because...