Conflict Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

The Good Fight Call me cynical but I worry whenever I hear a couple say, “we never argue.” Tiptoeing around disagreements might feel good in...

An Antidote for Wound Collecting

“Being impacted by being what happened to you isn’t victimhood, it’s human. Making an identity out of it is victimhood.” — Seerut Chawla The stories we tell...

A Case for Sweeping Negative Emotions Under the Rug

Suppressing negative thoughts might improve mental health. This isn’t a typo. Nor is it a lingering belief from my WASPY upbringing. It’s the findings of a new...

The Perils of Certitude and the Joy of Being Wrong

While it might be human to make mistakes, we are often reluctant to admit to them. When it comes to taking responsibility, we waffle, come...

3 Phrases to Use More of in 2024 and 1 to Use Less

Words hold power. The more we talk about what inspires us, the more inspired we become. The more we talk about what diminishes us,...

8 Ways to Make Meaningful Small Talk

Does the thought of making small talk fill you with dread? You’re not alone. Most people dislike idle chitchat because it feels fake and...

Don’t Get Your Tinsel in a Tangle — 8 Ways to Dial Down Holiday...

For as long as I have been practicing psychiatry, helping patients navigate the stress of the holidays has been a primary focus during the...

The Secret Sauce of Gratitude: Look for the Gift Behind the Gift

Before my kids could even talk, I was telling them to say thank you. I must have sounded like a broken record. 🗣️ Say thank...

8 Counterintuitive Strategies for a Happier Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is just around the corner. Here are a few tips to help you and your family keep the peace and make the most...

Forget Bed Rotting—There’s a Better Way to Recharge

“Take it easy for a few days.” My doctor’s instructions were straightforward. I had just had a lumbar puncture and was supposed to chill...

Practice Psychological Halloweenism to Boost Your Creativity

"Be yourself" may sound like good advice but research shows that pretending to be someone else may be a more effective way to boost...

Here’s What You Can Do When the World Feels Upside Down

One of the best parts of my job is getting to hear what’s on your mind. Below are answers to three questions I am...

An Antidote for Overthinking

Feelings aren’t facts. A basic principle of every non-pharmaceutical treatment for depression and anxiety involves putting some distance between oneself and one’s emotions. Psychodynamic therapy,...

7 Habits That Can Cut the Risk of Depression in Half

“We are what we repeatedly do.” —Aristotle Your answers to these seven questions have serious implications for your mental health: Do you get between 7 and...

The Difference Between Feeling Anxious and Having an Anxiety Disorder

What does anxiety feel like to you? Here are a few descriptions I have heard over the years: From the literal: Queasy Revved up On edge ...

How We Talk About Mental Health Matters

The practice of seeking support when we’re distressed is typically associated with emotional well-being. It makes sense: Most of us believe that having somebody—a...

How to Stop Jumping to Conclusions

What makes you tick? This is the question that drew me to psychiatry in the first place. What interested me most was not what people...

Why Learning From Failure Is the Key to Success

Without any experience in retail and very little cash, Sara Blakely founded Spanx when she was 29 years old. How did she do it?...

An Antidote for the End-of-Summer Blues

Too soon? It may only be August but pumpkin spice season is officially upon us. Brands are already rolling out their fall-inspired offerings and Christmas...

Are We Afraid of the Wrong Things?

After all these years, the movie Jaws still haunts me. I love to swim in the ocean but lurking in the back of my...