My 2019 Holiday Gift Guide

Morgenthal Frederics Mood-Boosting Glasses

ChromoClear™ is the first-ever luxury eyewear collection to transcend how we see and address how we feel. The lens has been shown through scientific research and clinical testing to help enhance mood and performance. The Relax may help migraine sufferers reduce head stress, shed tension, find calm after a trying day.

BlackBerry Farm Peanut Butter and Jelly Gift Set

A classic comfort food and childhood favorite, our PB&J Collection includes Peanut Butter, Blackberry Jam and Strawberry Rhubarb Jam in a festive birch box.

Assouline Palm Beach Coffee Table book

This splendid volume is a bright colored coffee table book that highlights some of Palm Beach's most treasured spots. This is the perfect gift for your design conscientious friend.

The Met Museum 2019 Ornament Gift Set 

Seven miniature collectible shoe ornaments that express the elegance and flair of actual shoes in the collection of The Costume Institute at The Met.

Stella Mccartney Hunter boot

Noted by the brand as one of the most sustainable shoes they've made to date, Stella McCartney and Hunter Original's boots come together to create a classic and forward-thinking all-weather boot. They're crafted from natural rubber, making them waterproof and paneled with flexible plant-based Yulex™ so you can slip them on and off with ease. Wear yours everywhere from the city to the countryside.

Aida Bicaj Luxe Lip Treatment

This revolutionary lip treatment will plump, moisturize and protect you from cold weather chapped lips. Formulated with natural avocado oil, vitamins, and oligopeptides, this is the perfect stocking stuffer for your beauty product-loving friend.

Aerin Velvet Slipper 

Handcrafted in Italy, these velvet Venetian slippers are finished with attractive matching grosgrain piping. Available in a range of rich tones, they are comfortable footwear for relaxing at home, while the rubber sole allows them to also be worn outdoors.

Tory Burch Sport Wool Sweater

This festive Tory Sport navy sweater made from wool is the perfect option for a cozy winter holiday party. It has a relaxed silhouette that's defined by ribbed trims and classic rolled turtleneck.

City Meals On Wheels Donation 

A pack of five cards will deliver a full box of nutritious food and special treats to your frail aged neighbors – just in time for the holidays. A vellum insert is included with every card to inform the recipient of your gift in their honor.

Olive and Cocoa Holiday Gift Box

Send loved ones this beautiful assortment of favorite Holiday treats straight to their door. These gourmet snacks are artfully arranged in a wooden gift box with an array of classic holiday goodies and is a perfect crowd pleaser for sharing with friends and family.

Macrene Actives Face Cream

Give the gift of glowing skin to yourself this season. A moisture-rich dose of 50 powerhouse ingredients will quench dryness and revive complexion from signs of aging while protecting from environmental pollutants. Packed with organic mushroom extract, olive oil-derivatives, and hyaluronic acid, this cult-favorite cream will revitalize and firm for long-lasting results. Not to mention it's made by a top NYC dermatologist.

Fjall Raven Re- Kånken Mini Backpack 

This special edition Kånken Mini is made entirely from recycled plastic bottles. An everyday pack in a mini format makes the perfect gift for your eco-friendly high-schooler.

The Blue Zones Kitchen Cookbook 

Building on decades of research, longevity expert Dan Buettner has gathered 100 recipes inspired by the Blue Zones, home to the healthiest and happiest communities in the world. These recipes are not only good for you but just really taste good. Your healthy and creative  chef will thank you for this one.

Slip Silk Eyemask 

Made from smooth burgundy silk that's free from toxic dyes, won't pull on your skin and is just the right thickness to keep out any light. The elasticated strap feels comfortable and won't leave creases in your hair after a night of shut-eye.

Minnie Muse Composition Notebook 

The Minnie Muse CoMMposition Notebook is designed as a playful, creative vessel to delight everyone from the daily doodler to neurotic note-takers.

Paravel Duffle Bag 

Give the gift of a personalized lightweight duffle, perfect for a weekend trip.

Laderach Chocolate Advent Calander

Count the days of Advent in anticipation of Christmas with this delicious German chocolate Advent calendar.

Jennifer Meyer Earrings 

Gift these handcrafted earrings with a subtle pop of color for the simple yet chic jewelry lover in your life.

La Ligne PJ Set

Get pajama party-ready! These super-soft pajamas are made from t-shirt fabric for the ultimate in comfort and style when you need some cozy R&R.

Bauble Bar Custom Phonecase

This hand-made case features up to 12 characters so you can personalize however you'd like, from meaningful initials to a personal mantra.

Shinola Men's Leather Travel Gift Set

Is someone always traveling in your life? This Shinola Travel Accessory Kit is perfect for the jet setter in your life.

The Gift Inside the Box

Adam Grant, the bestselling author of Give and Take, teams with his wife, Allison, to share the lighthearted tale of a gift in search of a giver--a classic in the making and the perfect conversation starter about thoughtfulness. Happy shopping!

Feasting Together Can Help You Succeed in Business and in Life

While meal replacements like Soylent are ideally suited for those who prefer to get sustenance through a straw and on their own time, don’t discount the immeasurable benefits of sitting down for a real meal with other people. It’s important to break bread. It’s even better to break it with others. Research from the University of Oxford found that the more we eat with other people, the happier we are and the more satisfied we are with our lives. Social eating may not always be convenient but that doesn’t mean it’s not worth making time for. Dining with others provides vital nourishment for our relationships. It enhances trust and feelings of closeness. Interestingly, it’s not just about the food. The presence of laughter, storytelling, and alcohol at a meal further amplify social bonding and engagement. Given these findings, it’s no wonder a study found that sharing a meal with an ex will trigger more jealousy in your current partner than having a drink or coffee. Eating together has significance beyond the consumption of food.  Of note, how you eat together matters too. Research from the University of Chicago’s Booth School of Business study found that sharing plates of food facilitates cooperation. In the study, participants were paired with a partner and then given a topic to negotiate. Half of the pairs received one bowl of chips and salsa to share, while the others were each given their own bowl. The teams who shared bowls behaved more cooperatively and less competitively toward each other and came to an agreement more efficiently than those who ate from separate bowls.  Simply put, if you’re trying to get a potential business partner to come to the table, sitting around a dining table may be more effective than sitting around a conference table. When choosing a restaurant, opt for a Chinese or Indian meal with shared dishes that require coordination and passing of plates instead of a French restaurant where diners are served individually. Not only will you have more fun, but you’re also more likely to get the deal done.   There is value in getting together for a meal with friends and in business. If you’re tempted to skip the holiday gathering and have a cozy dinner for one, consider this: sitting around the dinner table, telling stories, and passing the potatoes is an opportunity to create and enhance social bonds. As one researcher commented:

Basically, every meal that you’re eating alone is a missed opportunity to connect to someone.

The Science Behind Good Gift-Giving

The desire to be a good gift-giver often backfires. Here’s a scientific breakdown of what many of us get wrong about gift-giving and how to get it right:

Myth: Gifts should dazzle

Reality:

Instead of focusing on the “wow” factor in the moment of exchange, choose a gift that will be useful. Novelty wears off quickly. These gift misfires usually end up in the back of a closet.

Myth: Gifts should surprise

Reality:

Although you may feel inclined to go the extra mile and get the person something they hadn’t thought of – stop. There’s a reason they made a registry. Thought goes into a wish list. Give the person a vacuum cleaner if they want one, not a gift that you think they might want.

Myth: Gifts should be tangible

Reality:

While givers typically opt for material gifts like a sweater or an iPad, research shows that the best gifts don’t always require a bow and wrapping paper. Giving experiences like tickets to a concert to see their favorite band perform or a certificate for a nice dinner out will result in more enjoyment later on.

Myth: Gifts should reflect the recipient

Reality:

If you don’t know the person all that well, resist the temptation to tailor the gift to suit their unique taste. For instance, if your co-worker likes cats and you’re her Secret Santa, giving her a gift card to the local pet store might seem thoughtful to you but it will be less useful to her. Give her an Amex gift card that she can use anywhere instead.

Myth: Gifts should be expensive

Reality:

In an attempt to show thoughtfulness, givers often choose expensive gifts. In reality, price does not predict how much a recipient will enjoy or use it. Making a photo album, knitting a scarf, or baking a batch of your famous cookies doesn’t cost much but the value is priceless. As the old saying goes, the best gifts come from the heart, not the store.

An Antidote for Pathological People-Pleasing

John Templeton famously said, "It’s nice to be important but it’s more important to be nice." Science backs this up. Nice people live longer, they are happier and they are less stressed. That said, being “too nice” isn’t healthy either. Those who never say no and who always give at their own expense run the risk of becoming doormats. Being too much of a people pleaser often leads to festering resentment in the pleaser and the perception that you’re insecure and needy in the people you’re trying to please. There are no benefits to feeling manipulated, depleted and disrespected. My patient, M, was convinced that the only reason people liked her was because she was so nice. She was the person who would take on extra work at the office with a smile, who would enthusiastically agree to take the garbage out, and who would “happily” drive forty-five minutes out of her way to drop off a friend. “Being nice is my currency,” she explained. If she stopped being so nice, she feared people would stop caring about her. I asked her to think about what being nice entailed. She told me that being nice meant keeping her thoughts to herself and always doing what other people wanted her to do. Essentially, nice in her mind, translated into being a pushover. I then asked her to think about what being kind entailed. She felt kindness was about staying true to her values and expressing herself with honesty and integrity. There was agency and sincerity in kindness. It felt like a choice, not a rule she had to follow. It became increasingly apparent to M that there was a difference between being nice and being kind. A few days later, a friend asked her to pick him up after a flight into JFK on a Saturday morning. In the past, she would have immediately said yes. This time, she decided to be kind to herself and declined. She told him she wanted to sleep in and suggested they have lunch later in the day so they could spend more quality time together. Saying no to him may not have been the “nice” thing to do, but it was the kind thing to do because she felt heard and it strengthened their connection. Next time you find yourself venturing into people-pleasing territory, ask yourself this simple question, “Am I being nice or am I being kind?” Choose kindness every time.

Silent Gratitude: Why You Shouldn’t Keep Gratitude To Yourself

Many people keep gratitude to themselves. They feel it but don’t express it. Like you, they assume the other person already knows how much they are appreciated or they worry about finding the right words to say what they want to say. I have a patient who was so concerned about writing the perfect thank you note that she often ended up not writing one at all. Putting pen to paper or sending a thank you email may seem unnecessary or feel uncomfortable but research tells a different story. According to a recent study, we systematically underestimate the positive impact of expressing gratitude and overestimate how awkward an expression of gratitude might make someone else feel. Misunderstanding the consequences of saying thanks keeps us from engaging in a simple action that would make us and someone else a little happier. The conclusion of the study is crystal clear: every time we don’t express the gratitude we are missing an opportunity to give others and ourselves a boost. Expressing and experiencing gratitude in everyday life is one of the most reliable ways to improve your own wellbeing and the wellbeing of someone else.   Gertrude Stein famously said, “Silent gratitude isn’t very much to anyone.” She was right. Say it. Write it. Express it somehow. Whatever you do, please don’t keep it to yourself.   This article originally appeared in the March 2019 issue of Marie Claire Magazine.

5 Ways To Dial Down Holiday Stress and Actually Have Fun

The holidays can be draining and downright stressful. To avoid burning out, avoid burning the candle at both ends. Here are a few strategies to help you stay merry.

1. Give Your Time Away

Volunteer at a soup kitchen. Deliver meals to the homebound. Write a note to a friend or relative expressing how much that person means to you. Doing things for others will make you feel less rushed and serves as a great reminder of what really counts.

2. Get Fresh Air

As tempting as it might be to curl up by the fireplace, spend at least 20 minutes a day outside. It will boost your mood and clear your mind of negative thoughts.

3. Avoid Hot-Button Topics At Family Gatherings

Steering clear of heated subjects doesn’t mean you have to talk about the weather. Ask relatives questions about family history or other topics of genuine interest to all of you. You might learn something.

4. Know Your Triggers

Holiday stress combined with the increased abundance of calorie-packed treats can lead to unnecessary eating and drinking. Be aware of those situations and your choices. Life isn’t on hold until January 1. Do not use the holidays as an excuse to put health on the back burner.

5. Embody gratitude

Take giving thanks to heart. In addition to counting your blessings, think of gratitude as an action. Contribute to something. Add value. This article originally appeared in Marie Claire

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