Is Decentering the Key for Feeling Centered?
When I meet a patient for the first time, I always ask about what they hope to achieve in therapy. Of course, therapy is a process, not an outcome, and as the process unspools,...
Five Steps to Transform Ill-Will into Good-Will
“Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.”
— Anne Lamott, Traveling Mercies: Some Thoughts on Faith
Last week I wrote about apologies and heard back from many of you about apologies you...
A Simple Trick for Seeing the World Through Fresh Eyes
Like many jaded New Yorkers, Dolly Faibyshev had stopped noticing her surroundings. The skyscrapers no longer impressed her and the bright lights no longer made her starry-eyed. The hustle and bustle that had once...
How You Eat A Chocolate Bunny Reveals Your Personality
It is time to address a serious matter. When you eat a chocolate bunny,
what part of the bunny do you eat first? The ears, the tail, the feet?
A survey of 28,113 people provides some...
There Is No Right or Wrong Way to Grieve
The heartbreak in Nashville is unimaginable. “Unfathomable” is the word that keeps coming to mind. Merriam-Webster defines “unfathomable” as not being capable of being fathomed, immeasurable, impossible to comprehend. As a psychiatrist, I wish I had some way...
Harness the Science of the “Fresh Start Effect” to Help You Reach Your Goals
“So much for my New Year’s resolution to eat healthy,” lamented my friend as she polished off a bag of M&Ms. If any of the virtuous goals you set at the beginning of the year have...