A Counterintuitive Strategy to Give Yourself a Boost
When someone is going through a rough patch, the typical recommendation is that they speak to a professional about what is bothering them. Articulating one’s feelings and challenging negative thought patterns, the thinking goes,...
Just One of These a Day Can Keep Anxiety and Stress at Bay
We are often told that happiness comes from within but decades of research points us in a different direction. Accumulating evidence shows that happiness comes from “with” as much as it comes from within. A brand...
Five Steps to Transform Ill-Will into Good-Will
“Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.”
— Anne Lamott, Traveling Mercies: Some Thoughts on Faith
Last week I wrote about apologies and heard back from many of you about apologies you...
How to Apologize and Why It Matters
“If it means so much to you, then … sorry.” Logan Roy’s apology to his children in episode 2 of the fourth season of Succession is a masterclass in How Not To Apologize. In Logan’s defense, apologies...
The Secret to Waking up Alert and Refreshe
“Until I’m 6 feet under
Baby I don’t need a bed
Gonna live while I’m alive
I’ll sleep when I’m dead.”
— Jon Bon Jovi
With all due respect to the venerable Jon Bon Jovi, this is a terrible...
High Quality Comforting — 3 Ways to Support the Ones You Love
“In a relationship, each person should support the other; they should lift each other up,” says the ever-enlightened Taylor Swift. Of course, elevating and supporting each other is an essential ingredient of any healthy...