How Not to Make the Same Mistake Twice
Mike, 41, came to see me after splitting up with his girlfriend. It was the fourth relationship in five years that had gone wrong. He was frustrated. "Why do I keep making the same...
4 1/2 Ways to Deal With Someone Having a Meltdown
A friend was recently in line at his favorite bagel store and witnessed a scene that has become all too familiar: an adult having a meltdown. When the manager asked the customers to move...
7 Ways Cognitive Distortion May Be Bending You Out of Shape
"My depression had grown on me as that vine had conquered the oak; a sucking thing that had wrapped itself around me, ugly and more alive than I," describes best-selling author and psychologist Andrew...
How to Find a Therapist
May may be Mental Health Awareness Month but let's be honest, mental health deserves the spotlight year round and every single day. The mental health toll of the pandemic has made this issue even...
Self-Help Is Important. Other-Help Is Too.
One spring a patient named Margot came to my office feeling despondent. At the beginning of the year, she attended a seminar on the importance of self-care, which was titled, "Make This Year All...
What Happy Couples Do Differently When Tensions Arise
Life often feels like a game of Wac-A-Mole or, as one patient put it, like an endless wave of attention-requiring energy-draining drudgery: "I basically crisis-surf all day." Not surprisingly, when people report a lot...