Poke Me If You Like (and Don’t Like) Me
We are social creatures and crave companionship. So why do we often push the very people we care about away?
The 19th Century German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer was one of the first to explore this...
How to Fight Fair In Relationships
Conventional wisdom tells us it is best to avoid conflict in a relationship. After all, arguments tend to bring out our least appealing qualities: pettiness, hostility, and indifference, just to name a few.
But disagreements...
Hiding in Plain Sight
If a man dressed in a gorilla suit walked in front of you, stopped, beat his chest, and then continued on his merry way, would you notice?
Before answering this question, consider the famous gorilla video....
What Makes a Good Doctor?
“I don’t care if she’s nice. I just care that she’s the best.” My patient’s internist was retiring and he was eager to find a new one. Like most people, he relied on credentials and reputation to...
I Have a Confession to Make
Imagine sitting alone in a restaurant waiting for a friend. How do you pass the time? Do you look around? Do you savor the time alone to reflect or think about something that’s bothering...
The Best Relationship Advice I Know
Learning to “fight better” is a common theme in couple’s therapy. Don't use the phrase “you always…” stick to the issue at hand, and by all means avoid saying anything negative about the other...