Five Steps to Transform Ill-Will into Good-Will
“Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.”
— Anne Lamott, Traveling Mercies: Some Thoughts on Faith
Last week I wrote about apologies and heard back from many of you about apologies you...
How to Apologize and Why It Matters
“If it means so much to you, then … sorry.” Logan Roy’s apology to his children in episode 2 of the fourth season of Succession is a masterclass in How Not To Apologize. In Logan’s defense, apologies...
The Secret to Waking up Alert and Refreshe
“Until I’m 6 feet under
Baby I don’t need a bed
Gonna live while I’m alive
I’ll sleep when I’m dead.”
— Jon Bon Jovi
With all due respect to the venerable Jon Bon Jovi, this is a terrible...
High Quality Comforting — 3 Ways to Support the Ones You Love
“In a relationship, each person should support the other; they should lift each other up,” says the ever-enlightened Taylor Swift. Of course, elevating and supporting each other is an essential ingredient of any healthy...
Is Decentering the Key for Feeling Centered?
When I meet a patient for the first time, I always ask about what they hope to achieve in therapy. Of course, therapy is a process, not an outcome, and as the process unspools,...
A Simple Trick for Seeing the World Through Fresh Eyes
Like many jaded New Yorkers, Dolly Faibyshev had stopped noticing her surroundings. The skyscrapers no longer impressed her and the bright lights no longer made her starry-eyed. The hustle and bustle that had once...