How Not To Make the Same Mistake Twice
Mike, 41, came to see me after splitting up with his girlfriend. It was the fourth relationships in five years that had gone wrong. He was frustrated. “Why do I keep making the same mistake over...
How to Overcome the “What the hell?” Effect
Does every day begin with the best intentions?
You wake up early, eat a healthy breakfast, and plan on a healthy lunch, working out after work and a light dinner. But then life happens.
Your boss...
Why You Should Live Life According to Your Values
Psychologists describe two types of motivation:
(1) internal motivation—when we do things for the love of the game, because it is personally meaningful and reflects who we are.
(2) external motivation—when we do things in order...
What Mentally Strong People Do On Tough Days
We all have emergency plans. If the electricity goes out, there’s a stockpile of flashlights, batteries and candles. But what happens when your mood fails? What’s your bad day backup plan? It’s a question...
WHY “BE YOURSELF” IS TERRIBLE ADVICE
Self-knowledge is tricky business and often misconstrued. For instance, saying, “I know myself, and I don’t like outdoor festivals” is less about self-knowledge and more about preference.
And preference can get in the way of...
Asking Questions Makes You Look Smarter
I learned a lot in medical school. How to prescribe the right antibiotic to combat a bacterial infection, how to approach a combative patient, how to diagnose appendicitis, how to tell the difference between...