Here Is One Thing You Can Do Right Now to Reduce Stress and Boost Your Mood

What is something you already do more than 20,000 times a day that could help you feel calmer and more vital if you did it more deliberately?

Answer: Breathe.

Most of us don’t pay much attention to how we breathe because it happens automatically. We don’t have to think about it. It’s only when we’re out of breath or when our partners wake us up in the middle of the night because we’re snoring so loudly that the act of breathing gets our attention.

The reality is that most of us are breathing all wrong—with our mouths open and without any intention or awareness, according to James Nestor, author of the fascinating book, BreathMouth breathing, he explains, undermines health and our ability to manage stress. In addition to limiting the amount of oxygen we draw into our lungs, breathing through the mouth instead of the nose contributes to periodontal disease (it is the number one cause of cavities, more damaging than sugar) bad breath, high blood pressure, and also worsens snoring and sleep apnea.

Sometimes when we’re preoccupied or multi-tasking we forget to breathe. A survey found that 80 percent of us hold our breath or breathe shallowly when reading and responding to emails or texts. Writer Linda Stone calls this “email apnea” though “screen apnea” might be a better term for it because it also occurs when we’re scrolling through social media, watching the news, and checking Twitter. It’s highly likely that you’re holding your breath as you read this.

Being more deliberate about how you breathe has immeasurable benefits for mental and physical health. Even slight adjustments to the way you inhale and exhale can transform your mood, focus, perception of stress, and energy level. Over the long term, how you breathe impacts weight, sleep, anxiety, and cardiovascular health. Nestor shows how breathing correctly can even improve appearance by adding definition to your jawline (think Maria Shriver) and eliminating sagging jowls. Indeed, there are many reasons to pay attention to this unappreciated and undervalued bodily function.

Here is my favorite breathing exercise. It’s so simple. No fancy equipment, clothing, or accessories needed. The best part is you can do it right now:

1. Sit up straight

2. Relax your shoulders

3. Close your mouth

4. Inhale softly through your nose for 5.5 seconds, expanding the belly

5. Exhale softly for 5.5 seconds through your nose, bringing the belly in as the lungs empty


Each breath should feel like a wave washing over you and receding back into the ocean.

Repeat 10 times.

Bottom Line: Avoid mouth-breathing as much as you can. Make a conscious effort to breathe slowly and through the nose with long exhales.

I wish you all the best,

Dr. Samantha Boardman

Alisha Ramos

Alisha Ramos is the founder of the weekly newsletter, Girls’ Night In. Girls’ Night In was built on the belief that as our lives get busier, it is important to take a break and cultivate friendships, a crucial part of what wellness means for people.

Are You a Voter?

An interesting study found that people who were asked the question: “How important is it to you to be a voter in the upcoming election?” were more likely to vote than people who were asked, “How important is it to you to vote in the upcoming election?”

How could a small change in wording make a big difference in voter turnout?

The researchers theorize that viewing voting as part of your identity (e.g., “I am a voter”), rather than a behavior to be enacted, increased motivation to vote. The study concluded that people want to be consistent with their values and sense of self.

Along these lines, a study found that kids who think of themselves as “carrot eaters” liked carrots more than kids who said, “I eat carrots whenever I can.” Adults who described themselves as “book-readers” rated their own preference for reading as stronger and more stable than those who said, “I read books a lot.”

Language can motivate behavior. Using a noun to describe yourself and that connects to your sense of self seems to have more power than using a related verb that describes something you do. So if you want to engage in a behavior, make it an extension of who you are. Saying, “I am a healthy eater” will likely help you make better choices than saying, “I am someone who eats healthy.”

Parents, keep this in mind when talking to your kids. Thank your child for being “a helper around the house” as opposed to, “helping around the house.” I tell my kids they are “dog-walkers”, not “kids who walk dogs.” 🙂

I wish you all the best,

Dr. Samantha Boardman

Eliza Blank

Eliza Blank is the Founder & CEO at The Sill, a digitally native direct-to-consumer houseplant brand on a mission to modernize the garden center experience. Find out how she empowers “plant parents” and why water is her pet peeve.

What Does Your Favorite Ice Cream Flavor Say About You?

A survey commissioned by Breyers’ ice cream found that your favorite flavor of ice cream gives the scoop on your personality.

Researchers find strawberry lovers are usually the first to find love. On average, strawberry ice cream fans find love at age 24. For vanilla lovers, it’s 25, while chocolate fans are a year later at 26.

The survey also says strawberry lovers tend to love doing laundry, watching sci-fi movies, and listening to jazz music.

Chocolate lovers are the extroverts of the ice cream eating world. The poll finds they tend to watch a lot of romantic comedies, so maybe it takes longer to find a partner like the ones in their favorite films. Chocolate fans usually love pop music, R&B, and rock ‘n roll.

The personalities of vanilla lovers aren’t too “vanilla” after all. They’re pretty risky when it comes to a game of “truth-or-dare” and are more likely to choose dare. Researchers add they like to stay up late at night, like dogs more than cats and prefer washing dishes to laundry. Overall however, vanilla fans are said to be fairly introverted people.

I wish you all the best,

Dr. Samantha Boardman

Do Masks Mask Emotions?

“I can’t tell if they’re smiling or scowling.” 

My patient was voicing her concern about masks interfering with social interactions. She is not alone. A recent survey found that more than half of adults don’t believe they can talk to others properly while wearing a mask and say they dislike not seeing each other’s smiles.

Research by psychologist Simon Baron-Cohen (yes, he is related to Sacha Baron Cohen—they’re cousins) shows that most of us can, in fact, recognize what’s going on in someone’s head just by looking into their eyes. In a test designed by Baron-Cohen and colleagues, participants were shown a series of photographs of the eye region of different faces and asked to choose the emotion that best describes the person’s emotional state. 

Here is an example

 

Is this person A. Reflective B. Aghast C. Irritated D. Impatient

Scroll to the bottom of this article for the answer.

The research found that people are good at matching images of the eyes with the corresponding emotional state.

 You can take the test here.

Of course, it is not only the eyes that we see when we look into someone’s eyes. The area surrounding the eyes is also a goldmine of information. When worried, we furrow our brow. When disgusted, we wrinkle our noses and pull down our eyebrows. 

The area around the eyes also helps distinguish a real smile from a fake one. In 1862, French anatomist G. B. Duchenne observed that the muscle which surrounds the eye, the orbicularis oculi, engages when someone is genuinely happy. As the muscle contracts, the cheeks are pulled up, the lower eyelid shifts up, and wrinkles appear at the outer corner of the eye. This does not occur when someone is fake smiling. If the eyes aren’t engaged, you can assume that the person’s heart isn’t in it. 

Our eyes help us see the world around us. They also help us communicate with the people around us. 

Given the involvement of the eyes and the surrounding area in conveying our emotions, think twice before getting Botox at this time. Immobilizing your forehead and minimizing wrinkles will make it harder for you to connect with others while wearing a mask. Skip the wrap-around sunglasses too.   

 Masks limit what we see but they don’t have to limit our interactions.

As the singer Peter Gabriel reminds us in one of the best love songs of all time, the eyes are reservoirs of connection and emotion:

 In your eyes

The light the heat

In your eyes

I am complete

In your eyes

I see the doorway to a thousand churches

The yearning in that song always gets me. 

Alas, we can see a lot by looking into someone’s eyes so please stop worrying about masks limiting social interactions. 

Masks may even make us more appealing. In an article in Vice entitled Not the Point, but We All Look Hot in Masks, writer Katie Way observes:

“There’s just something attractive about a little mystery, a little obscured identity.”

So please wear a mask—to protect others, to protect your family, to protect yourself.  Wear it properly and don’t be a Maskhole—an individual who wears a mask in a way that makes it completely ineffective (below the nose, under the chin, or on the back of the head).

Answer: A. Reflective

I wish you all the best,

Dr. Samantha Boardman