What do you get your mother for Mother’s Day? Flowers are always a good choice, but here are a few suggestions that might be even more meaningful.
Give an Experience
The thrill of an experience lasts longer than the brief moment of happiness that comes with acquiring a new object –no matter how beautiful that object may be. Consider skipping the physical gift and instead book an experience for her, like tickets to a show or membership to a museum.
Write Her a Letter
When was the last time you thanked your Mother for everything she’s done for you? Write her a letter thanking her for the many ways she’s made a difference in your life, the things she’s taught you and how much you appreciate her. For extra-credit, read the letter to her in person.
There’s truth to the old saying, “a mother is only as happy as her least happy child.” Instead of complaining to her about everything going wrong, share the good stuff. Positive updates are reassuring and will make her happier.
Don’t be bossy. Avoid trying to ‘parent your parent.’ If your mother needs extra help, treat her with the respect and dignity she deserves. Allow your mother to take her time, physically and cognitively. Walk slowly beside her. Listen to her stories. Really listen. When you speak to her on the phone, stop scrolling through your email. Give her the full attention she deserves.
This Mother’s Day ask yourself, “What can I do to be a better and more grateful child to this extraordinary women?”
A little girl, asked where her home was, replied, “where mother is.” ~Keith L. Brooks
I wish you all the best,
Dr. Samantha Boardman